I have been a nurse for over 12 years

I can categorically say that I changed in every aspect of my nursing 4 years ago. I started to see things from the other side, from the patient’s side.  The side where people talk about you, not to you. The side where you are interesting, only because you are rare. The side where information is withheld; to seemingly protect you.

More recently, I have unfortunately experienced the side of the worried family member. I am proud to say that I am that annoying family member that asks too many questions, that requests the patients notes, that demands to see the scans. That complains. That writes a list of questions to ask.   I remember feeling frustrated at family members like me. I remember gathering with my peers and talking about that annoying family member; I remember when visiting hours couldn’t end quicker so “I could just do my job”

I am a different nurse now.  I understand more now. I am the patient, I am the annoying family, I am the nurse. I know now that my job involves more than the care plan, the drugs, the dressings, the showers and washes. More than a timeline of tasks.  I still get frustrated, but with more understanding.

Clint is sick.

I am worried.

And because I am worried, I have become an even more annoying family member. I am so frustrated. I’m frustrated at practitioners not giving us all the information. We get told small snippets of information and then we worry. We get sold the ‘bright side’ and the get told “it’ll be ok.” I was guilty of this. I was guilty of making big problems seem smaller to ‘help’ the situation. Truth is, it helps the practitioner. It doesn’t always help the patient. It doesn’t help Us make tough decisions. Knowledge is power. To all my medical friends and contacts please don’t’ withhold knowledge. Just be honest. Consider if the shoe was on the other foot.



One thought on “Worry

  1. Louise Morgan says:

    As Clint’s parents we also know he is sick, and we worry, and we
    share your frustration. Not being medically trained, when we are
    told something, it’s even harder for us to understand what is
    really happening. I completely agree with you that patients and
    families should be given the whole truth and not given sugar-coated
    information to make them feel better about the situation. We are
    very pleased to know that you are there for Clint, being that
    annoying family member insisting on seeing his notes, his scans,
    and asking the awkward questions that doctors and nurses
    don’t really want to answer. Sometimes they don’t know the answer
    but better to be told that, than “it’ll be fine” – all the while with
    their fingers crossed behind their back. Thank you for your
    tireless, loving and on-going commitment to Clint and his on-going
    road to recovery. It’s turned out to be a longer, bumpier road than
    any of us knew it would be. We appreciate all you do. We love you
    and your on-going love and support for Clint is admirable. Keep
    asking those pesky questions and being that annoying family
    member. Hold the medicos accountable for their actions and maybe
    they too will start to see things from both sides as you have done,
    and know that we share your frustration with system red tape,
    bureaucracy and sometimes a care less attitude. 😍 xx

    Sent from my iPad

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